All I Ever Wanted Was the World

"The more people hold beliefs that others expect them not to experience negative emotions, the more..."

Fri, 24 May 2013 11:24:30 -0400

“The more people hold beliefs that others expect them not to experience negative emotions, the more frequently and intensely they are likely to experience those negative emotions.”

- Feeling bad about feeling sad: the role of social expectancies in amplifying negative mood (2012) by Bastian et al.

Interesting paper about how our perception of how others expect us not to feel negative emotions ends up making us experiencing more negative emotions.

As the authors say:

One does not need to look far to see which emotions are socially valued and more normative than others. Daily we are reminded of the value of happiness, from TV advertising that highlights the hedonic pleasures of consumption, to national campaigns designed to improve happiness and well-being. Meanwhile, commonplace emotional experiences such as sadness, depression, or anxiety are pathologized and medicalized, viewed as deviant from the desired norm […]. Negative emotions are touted as bad for our health […], have been shown to impact negatively on those around us […], and can be “cured” with a wide array of drugs and interventions designed to quickly and efficiently return us to normality. On the other hand, the many benefits of negative emotions, such as their creative potential […], importance for interpersonal relations […], and role in achieving a rich and meaningful life […] are rarely prominent in current social discourse.

I feel that these counterproductive notions are promoted also by some branch of psychology, like positive psychology. When I was studying the literature for my thesis I’ve read something about grief therapy, a form of psychotherapy the goal of which is to help people cope with grief and mourning following the death of loved ones, and it turns out it increases the depressive symptoms.

Negative emotions are not always negative for you.

You’re allowed to be sad. And depressed, and anxious and whatever.
(via scipsy)

The one that photobombs.

Thu, 23 May 2013 19:00:01 -0400

The one that photobombs.

"Everybody has a label, and everyone labels themselves in some form. Some labels are given, whether..."

Thu, 23 May 2013 16:23:14 -0400

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Everybody has a label, and everyone labels themselves in some form. Some labels are given, whether the person wishes to identify with that label or not. One thing I’ve found interesting, however, are those individuals that “speak out” against labels.

A friend of mine recently wrote an article discussing sexism in the gaming community. This lead to an individual messaging her on her personal Tumblr, asking why she cares what her gender is. (While I could go off on the stupidity of his comment that men experience sexism equally to that of women, that’s not what this post is about.) The poster’s implication is that equality can only be achieved through the removal of labels.

I’ve seen others, including those I consider friends, adhere to his ideology that labels are a bad thing. I don’t think these individuals are very aware of humanity, however. To suggest that labels are inherently bad, or work against the idea of equality, is arrogant at worst, ignorant at best.

I personally identify as a lot of things. I call myself an Ohioan, Cincinnatian, Columbusite, American, classical liberal, bisexual, nerd, geek, bisexual, genderqueer, gamer, and a comic book nerd. I have other labels such as Gater (fan of Stargate), Scaper (fan of Farscape), Browncoat (fan of Firefly), a Whovian (fan of Doctor Who) and Trekkie (do I need to explain this?). I call myself a non-theist for reasons, though I do believe in gods. And the gods be kind, one day I may be able to call myself a transwoman.

All of those labels, to me, are extremely positive. They are how I identify with others, connect with others. They set me apart from some, but give me a connection to others. Without labels, I’m just a person. A human being. I’m not unique, I’m not different, I just exist.

I don’t want to be just like everyone else. I don’t want to live without my labels. They give me life and purpose, they give me my very humanity. Just because someone might look down upon me and call me a “fag,” because of my identity, does not mean that removing labels will help bring equality to the world.

People seem to forget the very nature of humanity. Living without labels is not going to solve issues. People aren’t going to stop being racist because the person with dark skin no longer labels their self as “black.” A woman that only dates other women will still continue to be hated by bigots, even though she doesn’t identify as lesbian.

Using the example above, Alanah could stop calling herself a woman tomorrow, and that’s not going to stop her from being ridiculed for what she does. As shown in her article, she was told she only got to where she is because she has breasts. Just because a woman no longer calls herself a woman, but simply a “person,” doesn’t mean she’s going to be treated with equality.

It certainly doesn’t mean she’ll stop being treated as a walking pair of breasts.

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- Labeless Posted on May 1, 2013 by Toni Goodman (via thats-not-my-pejorative)

codpieceboogie: collidingkiss: so does nobody else find it suspicious that erika the gym leader of...

Thu, 23 May 2013 04:39:04 -0400

codpieceboogie:

collidingkiss:

so does nobody else find it suspicious that erika the gym leader of celadon has a gym of all girls and gives away the rainbow badge

#do u hear that sound in the distance #that’s the sound of me screaming

bisexual-community: IMPORTANT!! It’s time for the annual (2013)...

Tue, 21 May 2013 18:55:25 -0400

bisexual-community:

IMPORTANT!! It’s time for the annual (2013) International LGBT (marketing) Survey. As the Bisexual Resource Center asks PLEASE TAKE IT anytime thru June 30th, 2013. And then “Signal Boost” and in general TELL ALL YOUR FRIENDS.

We especially need a LOT of Bisexual/Non-Monosexual Voices please.

Here is what it is all about:

Please take part in CMI’s 7th Annual LGBT Community Survey. Participation in this survey gives important feedback to our LGBT community media and organizations, and provides valid data to companies interested in serving our needs, sponsoring our charities, and supporting their LGBT employees. Last year, the survey was taken by over 45,000 LGBT citizens of 148 countries!

Your answers are completely confidential, and will never be used for sales or marketing purposes. The survey should take less than 15 minutes to complete.

We really need a lot of bisexual/non-mononsexual people to take this survey and share it with everyone they can think of becasue Community Marketing & Insights has graciously shared the important statistical information with Bisexual NGO’s/Charities & Academic Researchers. And these people in turn use it to be able to help provide direct and useful services to you! So please help in this annual effort. Thank You

fuckyeahgirlcrush: In which Marina Diamandis continues to be a...

Tue, 21 May 2013 18:28:46 -0400

fuckyeahgirlcrush:

In which Marina Diamandis continues to be a queen and shuts down body policing

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Tue, 21 May 2013 18:27:43 -0400

I love Girl Code

Tue, 21 May 2013 18:24:10 -0400

I love Girl Code

Почемучка: michaonthemoon: yaoibutts: I love how potato in French is pomme de...

Sun, 19 May 2013 12:36:58 -0400

Почемучка: michaonthemoon: yaoibutts: I love how potato in French is pomme de...:

michaonthemoon:

yaoibutts:

I love how potato in French is pomme de terre, which pretty much means “earth apple.”

like what stupid frenchman saw this:

and said “zis petite légume looks like a, how you say, APPLE! hmmm… but it grows in ze earth… HON HON HON! MAIS OUI! C’EST UNE POMME DE TERRE!”

j’adore comment ananas se dit pineapple en anglais, ce qui veut littéralement dire “pomme de pin”, genre quel type anglais a vu ça:

et s’est dit : “ow cette étrange big fruit ressemble à une, how do you say, POMME! hmmm… mais plutôt une pomme qui pousse dans les pins… HU HU HU! OH YES, IT’S A PINEAPPLE!”

(z’avez vu, on peut le faire aussi… hon hon hon!)

"I don’t even want a boyfriend. I just want someone who wants to hang out all the time, and thinks..."

Sun, 19 May 2013 08:54:08 -0400

“I don’t even want a boyfriend. I just want someone who wants to hang out all the time, and thinks I’m the best person in the world, and wants to have sex with only me.”

- Hannah, Girls

nikkeatsrocks: I hope you think I’m cute when I’m drunk because I’m drunk a lot

Sun, 19 May 2013 08:14:58 -0400

nikkeatsrocks:

I hope you think I’m cute when I’m drunk because I’m drunk a lot

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Sat, 18 May 2013 08:51:42 -0400

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Sat, 18 May 2013 08:50:25 -0400

kateordie: deeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaadpool: I AM LITERALLY...

Sat, 18 May 2013 08:45:03 -0400

kateordie:

deeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaadpool:

I AM LITERALLY SCREAMING

Yes

musikonweltoff: jap that’s mee :D

Wed, 15 May 2013 20:24:50 -0400

musikonweltoff:

jap that’s mee :D

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Wed, 15 May 2013 20:18:30 -0400

thedavecanread: ladypagemaster7: renee-ole: hamburgerjack: th...

Mon, 13 May 2013 19:53:42 -0400

thedavecanread:

ladypagemaster7:

renee-ole:

hamburgerjack:

the-chosen-juan:

fuckyeahmakestuff:

Oh, Hydrogen Peroxide. You do so many things. You deserve more attention.

Here’s a list of the many benefits of Hydrogen Peroxide!

1. Take one capful (the little white cap that comes with the bottle) and hold in your mouth for 10 minutes daily, then spit it out. No more canker sores and your teeth will be whiter without expensive pastes. Use it instead of mouthwash. (Small print says mouth wash and gargle right on the bottle).

2. Let your toothbrushes soak in a cup of “Peroxide” to keep them free of germs.

3. Clean your counters with peroxide to kill germs and leave a fresh smell. Simply put a little on your dishrag when you wipe, or spray it on the counters.

4. After rinsing off your wooden cutting board, pour peroxide on it to kill salmonella and other bacteria.

5. One man reports, “I had a fungus on my feet for years - until I sprayed a 50/50 mixture of peroxide and water on them (especially the toes) every night and let dry. All gone.”

6. Soak any infections or cuts in 3% peroxide for five to ten minutes several times a day. A nurse reports that she has seen gangrene that would not heal with any medicine, but was healed by soaking in peroxide.

7. Fill a spray bottle with a 50/50 mixture of peroxide and water and keep it in every bathroom to disinfect without harming your septic system like bleach or most other disinfectants will.

8. Tilt your head back and spray into nostrils with your 50/50 mixture whenever you have a cold, or plugged sinuses. It will bubble and help to kill the bacteria. Hold for a few minutes then blow your nose into a tissue.

9. If you have a terrible toothache and cannot get to a dentist right away, put a capful of 3% peroxide into your mouth and hold it for ten minutes several times a day. The pain will lessen greatly.

10. If you like a natural look to your hair, spray the 50/50 solution on your wet hair after a shower and comb it through. You will not have the peroxide burnt blonde hair like the hair dye packages, but more natural highlights if your hair is a light brown, reddish, or dirty blonde. It also lightens gradually so it’s not a drastic change.

11. Put half of a bottle of peroxide in your bath to help rid boils, fungus, or other skin infections.

12. You can also add a cup of peroxide instead of bleach to a load of whites in your laundry to whiten them. If there are protein stains on clothing, pour it directly on the spot, let it sit for a minute, then rub it and rinse with water. Repeat if necessary.

13. I use peroxide to clean my mirrors with, and there is no smearing which is why I love it so much for this.

14. Use 3% Hydrogen peroxide for removing blood stains – especially if they are fairly fresh. Pour directly on the soiled spot, let it sit for a minute, then rub it and rinse with cold water. Repeat if necessary. It is a great bleaching agent for stubborn stains on white clothes. Combine ½ c. hydrogen peroxide and 1 t. ammonia for a great stain removal combination.

15. Use hydrogen peroxide to bleach delicate items such as wool or wool blends. Soak them overnight in a solution of one part 3% hydrogen peroxide to eight parts cold water. Launder according to care instructions.

*Also, if you have a dog that you need to get to vomit (like if they ate a bunch of chocolate), make them swallow hydrogen peroxide. Give it to them a few teaspoons at a time.*

via preparedness365

just putting this here

And usually just .99!

all of this. peroxide is underrated

As a habitual dental hygiene obsesser, I approve this post :-)

Also it helps clean off animal bones. Just soak them in H2O2 for a while and they’ll be easier to clean. Bonus: they also turn really white.

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Mon, 13 May 2013 19:07:50 -0400

Moving tomorrow. So stressed. I wish It were 24 hours in the future. Someone play the song of...

Sun, 12 May 2013 19:24:03 -0400

Moving tomorrow.

So stressed. I wish It were 24 hours in the future.

Someone play the song of double time? K thx

Once my friend told me to not bother being classy cause I like it fast & dirty and I was almost...

Sat, 11 May 2013 11:11:28 -0400

Once my friend told me to not bother being classy cause I like it fast & dirty and I was almost insulted until I realized how correct he was.